What is Bullying?
Bullying is an act of aggression in the form of:
- hitting or punching (physical bullying);
- teasing or name-calling (verbal bullying);
- intimidation using gestures (nonverbal bullying);
- social exclusion (emotional bullying);
- sending insulting messages by phone or computer/social media (cyberbullying).
Bullying is behavior that is:
- Has an imbalance of power
What isn’t Bullying?
- Certain acts of exclusion that happen every now and again (not being invited to a party, not being included in a game at recess)
- Disliking someone- as long as the person is not verbally or physically aggressive about it, it is okay for one student to dislike another
- Accidental physical harm
- Being bossy- this is a tough one for many, but appropriate leadership is a developmental skill that many children won’t master until much later
LCPS Bullying Prevention Program
Every LCPS student in grades K-5 will be taught what bullying is and how to respond to bullying behavior.
Our 3 step program is called “Stop, Walk, Talk.”
3 STEPS TO STOP A BULLY!
Students will be taught that if they experience or observe bullying behavior they should tell the perpetrator to “stop.”
Sometimes, even when students tell others to “stop,” problem behavior continues. When this happens, students are to “walk” away from the problem behavior.
Even when students use “stop” and then “walk” away from the problem, sometimes students will continue to behave inappropriately toward them.
When that happens, students should “talk” to a trusted adult.
As a parent, what can I do?
- Model positive behaviors
- Encourage your children to solve small problems on their own
- Use the STOP, WALK, TALK vocabulary
- Identify trusted adults at school and in the community
- Observe for warning signs (constant on and off again friendships, depressed and lonely, school refusal)
- Take reports of bullying behavior seriously
- Actively listen and ask questions to find out details
- Don’t minimize their feelings by saying it’s “just a phase” or “that’s just how girls are”, etc.
- Practice assertiveness and social skills through role-play
- Inform school staff
Resources (children’s books):
The Bully Blockers Club by Teresa Bateman
Just Kidding by Trudy Ludwig
Trouble Talk by Trudy Ludwig
My Secret Bully by Trudy Ludwig
The Invisible Boy by Trudy Ludwig
Say Something by Peggy Moss
Resources (parenting books):
Queen Bees and Wannabees by Rosalind Wiseman
Odd Girl Out by Rachel Simmons
Little Girls Can Be Mean by Michelle Anthony and Reyna Lindert
No Kidding About Bullying by Naomi Drew